themimz is on to something here....Mom may or may not get strong enough to have some normal life time left....she may be released from the nursing home or she may need to stay.
My two cents. But that is not up to you. The social workers at that facility will evaluate the situation and make after care plans....continue, home, hospital, etc.
They will likely take into consideration her medical situation, her social situation, her insurance situation (Medicare, Medicaid, private insurance), and her financial situation and find a solution that works for all factors.
I can see that you are very worried. And that you have significant health limitations on you as well. If I recall this situation from a former post, you are looking after the paperwork, bills, etc.and are trying to monitor as best you can the medical information by phone with infrequent visits. Being a caregiver in this situation is not possible. If you lived 6 states away you could not either.
You will be able to visit the solution that is eventually found, but you can not muster some intervention of your own design, and I would recommend that you allow the social services at the facility do their job. If your dad chases help away, that is their choice. Sad, but a choice.
I add one more thing. Your folks have made other choices along the way. It is unlikely they will be blowing the candles out on their 95th birthday cakes. And between now and then, they may fail quickly or slowly. They may be more stable for a while if good choices are made. If you can work with the AA model for a minute with me....this process may be under the guidance of a higher power.... Sad, but true.
I hope that you are taking care of yourself. When it comes my time I hope my children take the Hospice Model to heart and let me transition pain free without heroic interventions.
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