Welcome to Healing Well. I am sorry that your wife is ill. But I am glad that you have found us. You will find that this forum (patients and caregivers) of all types of liver disease is a group of very caring people. We are not doctors, but patients and caregivers sharing experience.
My husband was dx with cirrhosis due to alcohol is the fall of 2010. He did not have the swelling ankles and belly that your wife is having. He did suffer from jaundice in skin and eyes, frequent bloody noses that would take forever to stop, daily gagging, sleep disturbances (getting up for hours in the middle of the night) and also from extreme fatigue at unusual times.
His first visit to the GI doc he was told that the best thing he could do for his health is to STOP DRINKING. He went through a detox at home, barely getting out of bed. He needed help feeding himself, getting dressed, getting in and out of bed. He was very yellow. He lost a lot of weight. He went through a program in the chemical dependency unit at our health care provider. He did well, and his labs improved, slow going, but improvements each time. His bloody noses stopped, his gagging stopped. He slipped and was kicked out his program nine months in. Over these 5 years and 9 months he has overall done well. His labs have improved to the point that with exception of platelets, all the labs are back in normal range. A miracle. It has not been easy. He is not perfect. He had a major relapse in 2013. His numbers started to get bad. He started gagging again and was fatigued again. It took him about a year to get himself back together. He has been going to AA. Not enough in my opinion. But he is hanging in there.
There is a member here, A.Ziffle, look up his posts in the search box. He was near death, due to liver disease from alcoholism. He was given three months to live. He stopped drinking and has regained his life. He suffered from the swelling as your wife does and had a TIPS procedure to help with that. Hopefully he will see your post and reply to you.
I guess what I am trying to say to you is that there is hope. The best your wife can do is to stop drinking. Follow your doctors orders. If a liver transplant is needed, she will need six months of documented sobriety before she can be listed. MamaLama, one of our moderators, her husband had a transplant after going through the documentation.
Please post. Ask questions, tell us more about your wife. How old is she? Is she still drinking?
It is also important to take care of yourself. Being a caretaker is hard.