Posted 6/22/2017 9:47 PM (GMT -6)
best advice is for you to join alanon...this is not your circus and he is not your monkey.
he is responsible for himself
that being said I have been in your shoes.
in 2003...a long time ago, my Mike has been a drinking man since high school. he had hep c and got treatment that year. he sobered up, took the difficult interferon but did not clear. darn! but he stayed sober a while. his liver doc said he had cirrhosis but, with sobriety and healthy eating, he could be OK for 15 years and surely by then the hep c med would be better.
so...that lasted a year.
as a heavy drinker, he totaled his liver in half the estimate...by 2010 he was at deaths door...MELD 26...and not sober. we went to a tp center and dear sweet dr. Martin told him to put his affairs in order as he would be gone in 3 months. gasp.
Mike was awful with crazy he, vomiting, losing wt and muscle mass, slept all the time and was HORRIBLE to me. I cried every day.
dr. Martin gave him an out...if if if...he would join aa or go into rehab, they would evaluate him for tp. Mike decided since he had led such a bad life he didn't deserve a tp. but he felt so sick he really wasn't eating OR drinking alcohol. some ginger ale and water was about it. and I joined aa with him. he kinda liked it. I went every time but stopped going inside...it was his journey but he could no longer drive.
bit by bit, he got a little better, less he with lactose and xifaxan. and sobering up, felt better too.
then they found a tumor in liver...more bad news.
as it got towards the required 6 months of sobriety it started to look like he would make it...after all he lasted longer that his expiration date by 3 months so far.
he was transplanted may 1, 2011. he is good these days. he has had lots of other issues, but he is good, golfing, making supper every night, busy with friends, walks an hour a day, and has been sober since Sept 27th, 2010. not that I am counting...yes I am, it is a miracle.
I hope your ex can work this out...but it is his choice. don't drive with him if he is trying to drive. it is unsafe. and if he is a fan of our second amendment have a relative or friend store that stuff elsewhere. hint. til he is in his right mind.
ask questions...we are here. I am not on every day anymore, but you know how to get my attention.
MamaLama, Forum moderator - Hepatitis
Partner received liver transplant (May 1, 2011) FL
Hep C 1a Treatment - Sovaldi/Olysio (March - May 2014)
Undetected since week 4. Undetected 12 weeks post treatment.