I am the loved one also...though much older...alcoholic cirrhosis can be a tough disease...hard on the patient and hard on the loved ones. I agree with ppm guy...focus on you, go to meetings, post on the help sites on the web.
No one can make another quit smoking, drinking, using drugs...that has to be the abuser. What you can choose is how you behave, how you feel, what you do next. I wish you well. I stayed with my drinking man way too many years, and when he got really sick I looked after him. He needed a transplant, had Hep C and liver cancer as well...so he was really really sick. He has not had a drink since September 27, 2010. He got a second chance and is doing really well. I used to wish there was a crisis that would snap him out of the drinking...well that happened 6 years ago...he almost died. too bad he had to get so sick before he could do the right thing.
Best to you both.
MamaLama, Forum moderator - Hepatitis
Partner received liver transplant (May 1, 2011) FL
Hep C 1a Treatment - Sovaldi/Olysio (March - May 2014)
Undetected since week 4. Undetected 12 weeks post treatment.