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Date Joined Jan 2006
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   Posted 1/12/2006 5:48 AM (GMT -6)   

Thank you all so much for taking the time to reply (I really need the support)  It is heartbreaking for all the family I was living in the same town as my parents up until recently and my husband and I have moved 20 miles away so I commute everyday we have a little daughter and my Mother who is such a wonderful person looked after her when I went back to work she is now two and a half so I am really caught at the moment.  She doesn’t want me to put my daughter in a crèche because she said it is a distraction for Dad and then I think that Dad is not able for her running around.  My Mam worries so much (always has) and she said she would be worried about her then if she is not looking after her.  What should I do ? 


The Drs don’t really know what caused the Cirrhosis they said it was his sugar levels (he never drank only very occasionally).  As far as I am aware he doesn’t have Hep.  I think the worst thing is the he was doing really well up until now and we all thought it wouldn’t really get worse (I know may this was the way we were coping with things) but now that it has it has come as such a shock to us.  My sister never stops crying when she comes home to see him at the weekend.  She says it is so hard to look at him that he is not the man he was.  It just breaks my heart to see him so week and tired.  I would do anything to help him even cope with all of this.  We were told last year that he is too old for a transplant and he has heart complications.  This is just so awful I nearly cant put it into words.  I feel like I am grieving him and he is still alive.  I know I should pull myself together especially for Mam and be strong for her to see her through this.  Sorry for the long post but I find it such a relief to be able to let my feelings out.  Ierie I think you are amazing that you take the time to write here.  I think that faith is so important at this time and to have hope and pray that things get easier.  Thank you all so much for your posts.

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   Posted 1/12/2006 1:49 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Faye, There are lots of reasons for cirhosis.Mine is from prescription drugs & I know someone who had cirhosis fro diabetes.The desease is heartbreaking for all involved, including the patient, family & friends. I know because I see it in my husbands eyes. I feel so bad I can't do all the things I used to do & sometimes I feel like such a burden.He loves me & calls it a labor of love so Its really hard for both sides. I try to assure him When it comes my time it will be an end to all the suffering & pain for me.But I have no intentions of going without a fight. Itry to reassure him he is a blessing to me. Its hard to be so sick & stay strong for our loved ones. My heart goes out to you , your family & your dad.If I may I would like to suggest you let your mom look after your daughter. this will give your mother relief & destraction not to mention joy. As far as your dad's strength try to think of the joy it will bring him & distraction for a time & a reason to keep going. In my opinion they all need this time just like you & your sister do.You all need time together with each of you doing things that are special between each of you & dad. Sometimes this means taking turns sometimes. This is what joy & memories are made from.So please leave your daughter as much as they want also the child needs these memmories too. Kids even at a young each remember things more than we think. Let it out I'm here for you & you need the release or you won't be able to help your dad & deal with this tragedy. Don't ever be sorry for asking questions or needing support That's why we are all here. Sending you hugs with my prayers. Stay strong & stay safe. later...

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