diagnosed w/end stage liver disease this year and now drinking like a fish again

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Date Joined Dec 2006
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   Posted 12/24/2006 9:25 PM (GMT -7)   
I'm at my whit's end.  My husband was diagnosed w/ esld in january and told if he didn't quit he would be dead in a year.  He had been in the hospital for 4 months and went to rehab but started drinking again 4 months ago.  Now in the last month it has progressed to everyday again.  he averages a pint or more a night of vodka.  I'm tired of the lies and I don't think i could see him get sick again.  I would appreciate any advice at all.  I don't want to be a widdow at 27 yrs old.

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Date Joined Dec 2006
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   Posted 12/24/2006 11:59 PM (GMT -7)   
I am new on here myself but I will welcome you as I have been welcomed. You are having a heckava Christmas for sure. Why was your husband in the hospital for 4 months before rehab? Do you have a local AlAnon where you live? I urge you to attend and also get support from friends there. You cannot help your husband since it sounds like he doesn't want help. He needs to decide that he is an alcoholic and attend AA or go back to rehab if he wants to live. It is so sad to see one's loved ones destroying themselves and those around them and I know the helplessness and frustration. Please, please do check back with us and get the support you need. God Bless.

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   Posted 12/25/2006 9:00 AM (GMT -7)   

Peaches, Welcome to HW. Sorry to hear about your husband drinking. SeaWings has given you some good advice! You can't change what your husband does, he has to! But you need to take care of yourself! I have walked in those shoes myself! My husband has been sober for quite awhile now. But the damage has been done and is not reversible. He is now on the Transplant list. It is the family that does suffer, our lifes have been torn up over their mistakes! Please attend AL-Non as suggested, they can help you cope with this. I love my husband very much, but if he were to start drinking again, I would not hang around, I have been through too much. I know this is not much help, my prayers go out you!


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   Posted 12/27/2006 2:46 AM (GMT -7)   
Seawings is right,,take care of yourself and head for ALNon,,I think i need to head there too,as my husband dranks on Christmas and Im so angry,,,,not only did he mess up his liver (hep b but was alky too),,but he committed a domestic violence against me ,,,tried to kill me with a sledge hammer ,,,I had been in the bathtub and he just lost his mind,,,Im not going through this again,,,I hope your husband has the will to fight this addiction,,but if he doesnt,,know that its not your fault,,he has to want to live life without alcohol,,,
take care
Life should NOT be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in an attractive and well preserved body,but rather to skid in sideways,chocolate in one hand,wine in the other,body used up ,totally worn out and screaming"WOOOOHOO WHAT A RIDE!!!" 

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   Posted 1/3/2007 12:24 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Peaches, I'm so sorry you are going through this.  I know it's a tough road and your so young to deal with this.  Even though your husband has decided to drink again, it's not your fault.  He is the only one who could make up his mind and what is more important to him.  I have walked your same footsteps for a long time until my husband became sick and almost cost him his life.  Thank god he made the decision to quit drinking but you know something, I never gave up on him.  No matter how angry I got or how it made me feel, I knew it was a sickness that was hard to beat.  I kept praying for so long for god to help me and do something.  Believe, I wanted out of the marriage because I didn't want to deal with it, I was your age when I married my husband knowing he had an alchohol addiction.  He was non-violent but very moody and impatient when he was drinking and when he was sober he was a different person as I'm sure you know what I'm talking about.  But I just couldn't leave him because I loved him so much.  You need to seek help for yourself because that is the only thing that will help you if you choose to be in the marriage.  I don't know if you have children with your husband, but if you do, they need to be taken care of as well.  I know it's hard and a tough decision to make, but please hang in there, take care of yourself and pray to god for answers, he will give them to you.  Good luck....

*Hugs, Thoughts, and Prayers*
   *Shel in New Mexico, USA*

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Date Joined Mar 2007
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   Posted 3/23/2007 7:43 PM (GMT -7)   
Has he been in the hospital for burst varices before? If he is end stage, I would think he has. If he starts bleeding internally due to his drinking, he could be dead within a day.

I know. I have ESLD due to chronic HCV. I used to drink but not every day. I quit after the first hospitalization for bleeding esophageal varices. I've been hopitalized 4 times for internal bleeding. I've been getting upper endoscopies since then for prevention. I've never felt as sick as when I started bleeding. My blood pressure dropped dramatically, & I once went into shock.

You can pretty much bet this is going to happen to him if he doesn't throw that booze away.
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