hi dianah, i almost didnt want to post this, the confusion is still there because the liver must be in very bad shape. you need to corner the drs and ask what is going on sometimes you need to do that with them they need to give you some answers. maybe he has an infection going on, men do get UTI that will make them confused to. i lost my father to this disease to. but you have to be demanding with the drs, corner them if you have to, write down the questions for them to answer and make them answer them!!! and if you have anybody in the family or friend thats in the medical field bring them to ask questions, that would help. i learned more about my fathers disease from this forum after he was gone than i did while he was still here. its a horrible disease for your father and for the family. please do not let the drs give you the run around they will if you let them, now that your father cant talk for himself its up to you. you are in my prayers and thoughts, i wish you the very best of luck.
autuminrain, i do feel for u I know what u r going through, I do not post very often but i do read the posts a lot my prayers go out to everyone suffering from this disease and thier caregivers. it will b 2 years on the 18th of december that my father lost his fight with liver disease, this a minute to minute disease keeps u coming and going. l wish everyone happy holidays, merry christmas, happy new year. my prayers r with u and your sister.
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Hi, Annette from an Old Timer here! I can't believe it's been nearly two years since your dad passed. I remember when you first came here and were dealing with his illness. Glad you are doing well.
Dianah, I am so sorry about your dad. It does sound as though he is in very bad shape. I assume he is being given Lactulose for the confusion...I think that is what you meant when you said he is having bowel movements. If he is not getting Lactulose, ask that it be prescribed. And, as suggested, corner the doctors. Find out who his Attending Physician is and ask him to give you an "educated guess" as to how much time your dad has left. By their wanting NH placement, it sounds as though there is nothing more that can be done for him, unfortunately.
Does your dad have a Health Care Surrogate? Since you have been the only one involved, I imagine it would be you. Does he have a Living Will? Since the HIPAA laws went into effect, it is very difficult to get information on a patient or to act on their behalf w/o a Medical Surrogacy and/or Power of Attorney. Since your dad is not really aware of his surroundings, etc., he wouldn't be able to sign the papers now.
I do want you to know that alcoholics will not listen to anyone or change for anyone. I'm a sober alcoholic (for 22 yrs.), so I know. He would really have to want to stop drinking himself and to go to AA immediately following rehab, even if he had AA meetings IN rehab. They only scratch the surface. Since he did not do this, he would not have been a candidate for transplant.
You have an awful lot on your shoulders right now, and my prayers are with you.
Hi, Sun7june. You picked up on an old thread. It would be best for you to start your own, so you will get more replies. Just click on New Topic instead of Reply and post what you posted here.
Welcome to the forum!