Here's something I learned along the way in my old(er) age, 53 now.......
You cannot change other people's opinions/beliefs/actions/thoughts, etc.
We can only change HOW we relate to others. For example, this friend doesn't understand what you go through. Some friends may try but some might quickly chalk up what you go through as "all in your head". To this type, you just have to say as little as you can (because the more you explain it, in dialogue or blogs, letters, emails, etc.) the more you will lose them and they'll never understand.
I have found that the ones that seem to want to understand or have an inkling of what many of us go through, are the ones that are great listeners. The quiet ones, that observe others, paying close attention to the other person they are conversing with.
The people that are waiting for the very second, they can jump into the conversation, to tell you their most horrible bathroom experience or whatever it is you're discussing (could be illness, car accident, vacation from he**), they have a story to top yours.
These are the people I shun and avoid.
Because they will never change!
I have a young daughter who's 21 and has a hard time when her friends do not behave as courteously as she wants them to (whatever it is, plans they've made, chipping in on meals, tickets for concerts, etc.). When they behave badly, she blogs about
it). If there is one thing I would gently suggest as possible, is to blog carefully. Blogs to me remind me of when I was a teenager, and we would write our most inner thoughts in our diaries, leaving them
open to that page when a "friend" came over to hang out. We wanted that friend to read that page, so they'd be forced to see they had been wrong. (Which truth be told, usually backfired!)....
Anyway, my daughter still blogs and I still sigh......you have to be careful when you
open up your life to others. People who you want to understand but will probably never understand.
Post Edited (Marsky) : 7/23/2008 6:55:06 AM (GMT-6)