Welcome to the forum! You've found the right place to vent. Yes I've had issues with trying to explain all of this too. We all have I suspect. In my case, I initially felt compelled to fully explain my situation. Over time I realized the more details I gave, the more confused people got and they then felt compelled to give me advice (as if I hadn't sought any on my own). So now I give them as little details as possible, if they press me for info, I simply state - I have IBS, I need to eat a specific way (plain food, small portions), and need to use a bathroom frequently. But I did not arrive at this acceptance place easily. Or quickly. It took me a while.
But yes it does suck. What I find difficult is trying to exist and interact with friends/family with normal colons. We walk a fine line sometimes, they can eat anything and never have trouble. Whereas we need to eat a certain way possibly and then deal with the consequences.
I honestly don't know what the answer is for this dilemma but it is individualistic, some of us like talking about it, some clam up. Me? I can go either way, just don't put me under a microscope and ask me tons of questions, that's almost too much focus.
I just wish there were bathrooms all over the place - one of my pet peeves are restaurants with one stall. ONE! Or I wish there were rest stops like you find on interstates, in communities. I also hate it when businesses have signs posted - no public bathrooms.
I find it so comforting walking into a public bathroom and seeing a dozen or more stalls. You'd think I won the lotto or something. It's as if my insides just relax.
I'm getting off track. Just smile, deal with your IBS and try not apologize for it. You sometimes have little control over it and only want acceptance you're doing all you can to feel better.
I'd never wish this disease upon anyone.....wait, I've always said there is one person - Bin Laden. But he's the only one.....lol
Hang in there...hopefully you'll get more replies.