Hello, I'm Serenitee, and its nice to meet you. I'm so sorry that you are in pain and not receiving the love and support you should be from your husband. I agree with Fiz, that I would call the Doctor's office and tell them if they can put you on the list in case anyone cancels, and you would be willing to come in at a moments notice. If this is possible for you.
I was wondering if you have an Ostomy since you had to have part of your large intestines removed? How long have you been married for, if you don't mind me asking? Do you have children that are still living at home?
I totally can empathize with you in regards to living with chronic pain. I have had extreme bowel problems for 44 years and a couple months ago my large intestines shut down and quit functioning...So in May I had to have a Loop ileostomy. A little over year ago my colon tore thru my vaginal wall and my colon and bladder fell out of my body. Causing a lot of damage in my pelvic region. I now have extreme unbearable chronic pelvic and bladder pain 24/7. I have had 2x Bladder Lifts w/mesh to hold back into the right place, vaginal vault lift which lifted everything back up, 2x Rectoceles, 2x Enteroceles, abdominal hysterectomy, C-section, ruptured appendix, tumor removed from head...these are a few things.
Sorry I didn't mean to ramble on about myself, I just wanted you to know that I can totally relate to you when it comes to pain. And I truly believe that having someone that loves and totally supports you thru such difficult medical problems is a must. I feel so guilty myself that my husband and 7-kids have had to live with me being so sick for so many years. I feel like he didn't sign up for this. We just celebrated our 23rd wedding anniversary and he has been by my side thru all of my medical problems. I lived on the toilet every day for hours a day and he never quit trying to support me.
Have you ever tried to talk to your husband and tell him how much you need his support and love? I am so sorry you are going thru this. If you ever want to chat my email address is in the members profile. I would love to exchange emails with you. I'm sorry I wrote so much.
Your Healingwell Friend,