Hi Pam,
I want to welcome you... I can understand your concerns and I am really happy to see that you care so much for your mother. Unfortunately, I don't have much advice to give on this subject. I have not had any bowel surgery done before. We do have an ostomy forum on this site that could probably be of a little more help to you. There is a drop down box above these posts that currently says Irritable Bowel Syndrome. If you hit the down arrow, you will have a list of forums to choose from (in alphabetical order) and you would just choose Ostomies. They have a wonderful moderator and members there who I'm sure would be happy to help you. Sorry I couldn't be of much help.
Hugs, Des
Co-Moderator ~ IBS Forum
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