Hi Robert S. Welcome to healingwell. Sorry to hear that you are going through a hard time. This fear you describe is probably one of the single most debilitating (emotionally) fears there is with this illness. This is why people stay home, etc. I'm not sure I have here what you really need. But i'll tell you the story of a friend. She has had IBS for years and one time - it happened! What we all dread the most. She got an attack while stuck in traffic. Her boyfriend (now husband) pulled over and she had the big D in a parking lot over in the corner. She was humiliated (they were with another couple who unfortunately were not all that sympathetic to her plight) and felt pretty dejected too. However, after this, she put together a crap kit. She has it with her at all times in some form or other. She carries a bag with pants, underpants, diaper wipes, alcohol wipes, camping toilet paper that disintegrates once you are done with it, and a few other things- just in case she gets stuck somewhere away from a bathroom. Obviously it's easiest in the car to carry this. When she flies, same thing- just less in a little carry on bag. I like the crap kit idea. Just in case. Hopefully most of us can find some sort of bathroom most of the time. also, try taking some immodium, IF you don't have constipation problems. Before I had C issues too, I used to just take immodium if I was even driving across the city (note- I do not recommend this without asking your MD first. I did this out of anxiety but it really isn't great to do to your body) That said, it may be Ok to take some if you are gonna fly or be ina car long term, just don't take too much. But again ,, ask your MD first. Hope this helps some. The kit makes my friend feel emotinally safer, so that in itself had her feeling less fearful. Good luck.