ibs my get me the sack? meeting at wor tomorrow.

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   Posted 3/14/2007 12:29 PM (GMT -7)   
god i feel so bad at mo. i hvae just been told thta i hvae to attend a disaplinary hearing due to time taken off ill. most off thta time i was off i was signed off by my gp becuase of ibs and stress. i hvae spoken to the people at the mental health unit and thye said thta thye can get me on some benefits as thye dont thnik i should be working at the mo. thye were so nice to me there. she sat me down and listened to whta i was saying and said to see her tomorrow to see whta happened at work as she thinks thta i need help wiht stress caused by my work as thye are so horrible. she said thta maybe losing my job is just whta i need. thye can thne provide me wiht more surport on a dairly bases. tomorrow after my diserlairy hearing i hvae a yoga lesson there so she said to denfitanly go to it even if i am upset as thta will help to calm me down.

i feel thta may be being reffered to the mental health unit could hvae been the best thing my gp could hvae done for me in the sense thta it will help me to deal with going to see another gi as well as other prolbems i hvae. thye also said thta thye can get me help with my english as what i am doing at mo is not great.

i am hopeing thta things will strat to take a more positive turn for me. something has to soon. i cant be thta unluckly can i? at least sometimes i still hvae my sense of hurmour which sometimes evdades me. mad confused sad

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   Posted 3/14/2007 4:36 PM (GMT -7)   
It is important for you to keep your spirits up.  Keep a positive attitude.  Be realistic (about your health and your job) but hang on to that sense of humor or you will go nuts.
Best of luck to you tomorrow at the hearing.  If you'd rather be sacked, then GOOD LUCK getting the ax.  If not, best wishes for you in keeping your job.  Hopefully you can justify your missed work with doctor notes.
Please let us know how things go.

Good luck!

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   Posted 3/14/2007 9:14 PM (GMT -7)   
Thats correct, It sounds like you do need to take things one day at a time. Meeting with the mental health unit is a good idea, they may direct you to take a step back at the moment and slow yourself down. (stop to smell the roses).

It might sounds like a huge adjustment to your life now but you need to realise that it starts with adjustments. You health is now your number 1 priority.

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   Posted 3/16/2007 8:50 AM (GMT -7)   
thnaks i haerd today thta i have ben given a written warning but if i hvae any more time off sick thye will sack me. the only question is how long before thta happens agian. i had another flare up last night. i woke up in serve pain agian not able to move in my sides. i thne started to panic about work and what if i cant go to work today as i had to hvae the verdicit to day. i was so upset inside but i told myself thta i was not going to give them the satifaction of seeing me cry or indeed any kind of emotion. i walked in and held my head up high as i hvae done nothing wrong but be ill and thye are treating me as if i hvae broken the law or something like thta. i just said to thme thta i hope thye never become ill and thta one day thye may understand waht i hvae been thoguh. i thnik thye would treat there animals beter than thye hvae treated me. waht does thta say about thme.

i am now stressed thta i will get another raelly bad flare up and work will then be impossible to go to and i will thne get sacked. althgouh i am now not scared to fight back and tell thme just what i thnik of thme! whcih is not to plesant and may contain some obsene langage! :-)

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   Posted 3/17/2007 1:33 PM (GMT -7)   
Surely they cannot fire you for being ill, especially if you have doctors notes to cover you. Does your place of work have an occupational health department or human resources??

You have done nothing wrong and you can't help being ill. They are contributing to your stress and making you worse by this disciplinary. They should try and help and support you more to be able to cope at work with your illness instead of treating you as though you have done something wrong.

I am sorry that you have had to go through all of this. When I was nursing, i had a year off sick and my workplace was very supportive and helped me get back to work.

Good luck with everything - do not let them walk all over you.

Take care

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   Posted 3/19/2007 1:25 PM (GMT -7)   
thnaks for your surport. my work place doesnt hvae a ocupational health departemnt or human resourses. i am working for a small business.

i am so tired wiht every thing whcih is going on i am not sleeping very well and am just constantly tired. whcih is not helping me. i am going to apleal against it and see what happens. but i know one thing i do not want to work for them any longer than i hvae to. thye hvae never surported me though any of this althuogh thye will say they hvae. thye made out thta thye let me cut my hours but thye did it becuase business is bad at mo. thta is there idea of surport.

i hvae got the full surport of the mental health unit thugoh which is good. thye hvae given me more surport in 2 weeks thna my firm has in three and a half years.

i am thinking abuot giving in my notice as i am not sure things will ever get beter well i am still working there. i hvae been finding out abuot what benefits i would be able to claim. not much but it may give me a strart in the right dicrection. i hvae to thnik abuot my furture and take every day as it comes.

the one thnig i was told by a few peole is NEVER LET THE BAST**DS GRINDE YOU DOWN.

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   Posted 3/19/2007 1:37 PM (GMT -7)   
If you feel that way about working there put in applications in other places when you can.

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   Posted 4/18/2007 4:21 PM (GMT -7)   
I have been sacked/fired for being ill.....(I was in the hospital with diverticulitis)...However...I DID get unemployment insurance...MOST states (in the USA) have an "at will" employment policy....meaning they can fire you for anything...even for wearing a red shirt to work...etc...BUT....the law is on your side when it comes to unemplyment....I got unemployment when I QUIT a job because the job was threatening to let me go if I missed another day. STAND UP for yourself on this one...I have been in my line of work for 20 years and have lost a few jobns due to my messed up bowels.....and am almost unemployable because of my "shaky" work history....(a year here....a couple there...6 months there....) but I STAND UP for myself and most of the time I end up o.k....and as everyone says here....your health comes first.

Good Luck!

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