Hi Sheree - my name is Mary, I'm 52 and I've been lurking on this site for a few years now. I had colon cancer in 1999, 15 inches of my lower colon and sigmoid removed, temp colostomy that was reversed 2 months later and I also had my GB taken out during my colon resection (due to hundreds of gallstones, discovered during a pre-op cat scan). I too have the dreaded D and am in the bathroom a lot, especially after a big meal. As you mentioned, for an hour or more. My bm's seem to come every 10 minutes or so and I've compared them to labor pains (I have two daughters, 17 and 20). The good news is I'm still cancer free but the bad news is this has been an 8 year struggle for me, to maintain a normal lifestyle and function out in the real world. I know where every single bathrom is and I've used them ALL! I follow a low residue diet (which saved me 4 months after my first surgery) and watch what I eat.
I know you are worried about
this big dinner and here is my advice. You may not like it but this is what I do when faced with such a situation....
I don't eat! Period. Or I order something very, very light and nibble. Everyone around me is so busy, talking, socializing, laughing, enjoying themselves that they usually don't notice if I'm not eating much of anything. And if they glance over and notice I'm not into my meal, I just say oh I'm really not that hungry and I then ask for a doggie bag. Try this - it does work. You have to get your explanations all lined up. Another trick I use - I go to the bathroom. A lot - in reality and sometimes I just go there, to escape the image of me not eating. Of course the waitress will think you might be bulemic or anorexic but get past this. A big celebration like this is not the time to eat a huge meal, especially since you know what is going to happen. Don't chance it to Immodium (which will help of course).
You also might want to explain this to a few trusted dinner guests (b/f, etc.). So when you order just a side salad or soup, they won't say - that is all you're eating?
Wishing you the best here.
Post Edited (Marsky) : 7/9/2007 7:08:56 AM (GMT-6)