I agree with finallyfree. Prostate exam is in order. Not being to urinate is one of the signs to an enlarged prostate. Also you could have a kidney stone or blockage. Those can go undiagniosed for they are slippery little fellows...
I also want to welcome you to our forum...
39 yr young female with,
Chronic Kidney Stones, PKD (Polycystic Kidney Disease), Chronic Kidney Failure, Severe Hypertension, Urological RSD
Also CHF (Congestive Heart Failure) and Sleep Apnea
Hopefully NO MORE........ I think I have it all