Do not assume guilt!!!
You are not responsible for the condition of your Mothers kidneys. You do have some major responsibilities of your own .... and taking on someone elses guilt is NOT one of those responsibilities.
I am a kidney patient, as well as, a cancer patient. I also had a Mother who always seemed to lay guilt upon me ... she is now a serious dementia patient, was a very heavy drinker. And I will NOT take on any guilt for any of that!
Try to do the same!
Rob and Gizzy
Initial Dx of PCa in 2003/2004
Radiation (5x5wks) & Brachytherapy (96 seeds) in 2004
Low PSA for 6-years then Casodex briefly
Lupron from 2011 to current
Zytiga 2012 (5-months) - PSA increase
Prednisone & Xgeva from 2012
Taxotere - August 2012 (30-weeks) - PSA from 54+ to 12+
No chemo (8-wks) - PSA to over 23
Xtandi - June to Aug - 2013 - PSA increase
Jevtana + Lexapro - from October 2013