Posted 3/18/2015 10:38 AM (GMT -7)
Ah, you asked why I need another kidney transplant. Now that is a long story. Well, I was born with a genetic defect that gave me sick organs as a child. Eventually, I needed a liver transplant, but because it was done so late that I was almost dead, it damaged my kidneys in the process, and I needed the first kidney transplant.
However, during all of these multiple childhood surgeries, no-one ever took a moment to consider the psychological damage that had been done. I never felt that my body was my own, never safe from medical molestation. See why I say that the creation of a non-medical identity is so crucial?
Yes, I had to take anti-rejection medication, and I hated that. I had a few moderately good years in late high school and early college, but then I started suffering from another series of bodily pain, and more procedures. I had finally had enough, and I wanted this time to die. A few years ago, I rejected all medication in a final attempt to send a message that the psychological damage of being sick cannot be ignored.
Again I nearly did die, but on the last day my parents came to me and asked if I wanted to try and turn things around. I said I could try, and so I began a long, hard process of dialysis and listing for another kidney transplant. My family has now paid attention to the trauma done, and I am working closely with my Dad to recover my sanity. The doctors, however, have never learned, and they still believe that an ill person's psychological health is no issue.
I hate dialysis. I vehemently despise and am disgusted by it, so I'm glad your girlfriend has working kidneys again. However, I wouldn't trust that they'll stay that way forever, after having failed once. I suggest she talk to a doctor she trusts about a potential transplant in the future, while for now trying to resolve her cancer. Set up the options, so she can act if the need and/or possibility do arise. I do hope she can get rid of the tubes, too. I hate tubes.
Good luck to you and her. I send my sympathies, and you/she can talk to me again if you need to. My email is email@example.com