thanks for the advise rosie, judy and ginny. i really appreciate the replies. and pregnancy and all that come with it is not something my hubby and i are taking lightly. and although everyone does want us to get pregnant rosie you are right we are being very selfish, we have told everyone that we will have kids when we are ready and we leave no room for arguements or questions. and as for adoption i am very
open to that, my dad's aunt adopted her oldest son, and my parents have friends who have also adopted. but i the hubby is very hesitant about
it. i think he believes that he cant love someone else's child the way he could love his own but he did say that if exhaust all possiblities of having a child naturally he will consider adoption. and i know where you are coming from ginny, it is hard to for us to take care of ourselves especially during a flare, let alone trying to take care of a child. but honestly i (and my hubby) are willing to take that added responsiblity, and god bless the friends that i have around me cuz i know that if i needed help all i would have to do is call. and i know how hard it is cuz during christmas when we were in chicago we took my nephews to the museum and its not even that they were bad or anything but all that walking, watching, and helping them was tiring, but what made it all worth every pain was to see how happy and much fun they were having. i have given this alot of thought (at least 4 yrs worth) and all i know is i want my own family complete with little babies crawling around. i just hope that it works out that way.
Hugs and prayers, If it was easy being a lupie,
~Suzanne~ the whole world would be one
diagnosed in May '95 with lupus nephritis, hypertension, hypothyroidism, avascular necrosis (knee) '98, kidney transplant April '06, pseudo-cerebral tumor '07, AVN ankles and hips '07
prednisone, cellcept, prograf, lopressor, allopurinol, synthroid, diamox, OsCal +D, lunesta, celexa, percocet for pain