Wow. All I can say is that if you have trouble looking after your own needs some days, then you can't look after a child properly. I know that sounds harsh. But that's how I feel. There are days when I even find my cat to be a handful. I would feel irresponsible bringing a child into my life. It's different when you've had children first, and then get the diagnosis. But when you KNOW the issues you have and the medications you have to take to survive, and the fatigue, pain, and potential complications you might have, it's a completely different ball game. Even if you're in a remission state, or feeling very well, all that can change in a heartbeat.
I'd love to have children, but I know I'll never be a mom. Ever. Even adoption is out for me. Who in the world will give me a child knowing my medical history!? Also, even though I wouldn't be pregnant and have to figure out the medication stuff and all the other crap that can happen while pregnant, I still have to be able to raise and nurture this child. Having kids is like having 2 full time jobs. Can you manage 2 full time jobs AND have lupus? I sure can't.
Instead, I'm the best darn aunty my little nephew will have! Please consider this very carefully. Just looking out for you,
I can do anything through Jesus Christ who strengthens me. I have learned in whatever state I am in,to be content. Phillipians 4:11-13
33 years old. Diagnosed with lupus in 2000. Fibromyalgia, anti-phospholipid syndrome(APS)(stroke),Sjogren's, Raynaud's, seizure disorder-(miraclulously disappeared!), Libman Sach's Endocarditis, vasculitis, sacroiliitis, arthritis (neck) . Prednisone, Imuran, Coumadin, Clobazam, Amitriptyline, didrocal, monopril, calcium, Cykolokapron, multi-vitamin, vitamin D, Magnesium, vitamin B6, Acidophilus