Thanks for such a thorough answer Ginny . . . I agree with Ginny also.
One addition I would make is re: sex drive. For women, there are a list of things that will affect sex drive.
Energy (low energy just isn't conducive to good sex) . . . So intentionally chose a time of day that works for you . . . just before dinner or lunch is great because after a meal your body is working hard on digestion, leaving poor blood flow for more important body parts . . . he he. By the time we go to bed in the evening, there is just little hope for enough energy left to enjoy sex.
how we look (or how we "think" we look) can really dampen things or improve things. Even a bit of lipstick can improve self-image and make sure to have some nice undies . . . really. Even those of us who are way overweight can feel much more appealing with some pretty undies and a bit of makeup.
anti-d's are not all created equal . . . if you've noticed a change in your libedo do talk to your doc. . . I switched anti-d's three times till I found one that least interfered. I don't recommend this w/o doctor's approval, but on some anti-d's it seemed that if I wanted to make "plans" and I skipped my anti-d that morning, things went better . . . not sure if this is placebo affect or for real . . . but who cares . . . w/doctor permission . . . if it works, it works.
I just feel like this is a very important aspect of our relationship. For all our hubbies endure with this dd, it is really important to find a way to make this area of our lives work. Making it a priority is a great way to enrich our lives.
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