I can't say a lot, as pregnancy is not anything I have experiance with, but...
Sometimes it all becomes more clear if I take some paper and make two columns. One for pros, one for cons. Leave it out for a week or so, you and hubby keep noting things as you figure them out -- include what doctors say, pro & con.
Then go over it together, brainstorming and trying to put "points" with each item. Killer headaches for 9 months -- 35 very bad points. Doctors say kidneys will be fine -- 50 good points. Health, adoption, etc. All you can think of. Add up points to get good total and bad total.
Put it away for a few days, just sleep on it and let your gut and your subconscious figure it out. Don't discuss w/husband or anyone during this time, just let it stew. (This is where you toss in religious or spiritual beliefs, if that's important to you.)
When I use this method of deciding big issues, I find that a clear answer appears!!! What I decide may not match the numbers, or what I initially thought, but I'll wake up one morning and find that one option is overwhelmingly the right choice.
Good luck, and I'm sure your course of action will become clear.
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