I am so sorry you're having these issues with your husband. So many of us here on the board have had to deal with someone in our family that doesn't believe we're really sick (me included). My ex-husband would threaten me with divorce, tell me it was my fault we didn't have a bigger house, that he was stuck in a dead end job, that we didn't have more money saved. After years of hearing that thrown in my face I filed for divorce. My sister and her husband decided that they thought I was making all this up too and sided with my ex. To this day I still am not in touch with my sister. The kicker is she has Lupus too but thought it was all in my head thinking I had it. My lab tests are worse than hers ever were and last month I was approved for disability and will be receiving back pay from 2004 when my divorce became final and I quit my job. I guess I'd like to tell them I told you so but it isn't worth it.
My advice would be to go to counseling. If counseling can't get your husband to see the truth, that you are sick and those vows that he made before God "in sickness and in health" were just that ... a vow that he took; then it's time to re-evaluate your life. I waited 28 years to leave and let me tell you I feel like I wasted my life on my ex. Don't waste what valuable time you have on this earth.
Most of all remember that we all understand what you're going through and we're all here for you if you need an ear or a shoulder. Take care of yourself and don't let him beat you down. We believe you.
SLE 9/07, Meniere's Disease 2/08, FMS '90's, Spinal Stenosis, Osteoarthritis, Sinus Tach, PVC's, Kidney Stones, RLS, Parotid Neurofibroma 8/04, Cervical Cancer 9/06
Plaquenil, Methotrexate, Mobic, Toprol XL, Prozac, Zyrtec-D, Zocor, Vitamins B6 & B12, Pepcid, Folic Acid, Calcium, Loratab ,Percoset, Toradol
There is no psychiatrist in the world like a puppy licking your face.