Welcome Nickoa!! I'm glad you started a new topic to introduce yourself.
((((((((( Nickoa )))))))))))) You've got a lot going on right now and it is a lot to accept a diagnoses like this. You've got the additional pain of deciding whether or not to have children. I especially feel for young women who are faced with that difficult decision.
Part of your decision will be helped by waiting a bit to see how progressed your kidney issues are. Your doctors will instrumental in helping you make that decision.
The diagnosis itself requires a period of mourning. There is a a succession of grieving that helps bring you to an acceptance of a "new normal". You really be happy again . . . but not right away. A lot of healing happens as you eventually learn what new limitations you have to deal with and part of that is learning how to pace yourself so you are 'causing' a flare by over-exertion or not enough rest etc. You have the added stress/pain of waiting to see what your options are as far as children and then coming to terms with that.
You'll find a lot of support here and many others who have dealt with similar issues. Nothing like chatting with someone else who really understands your pain.
I hope you'll keep us posted as you learn more from the doctor and his/her plans for your treatment.
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