I'm glad that your therapist has a belief system that works for him.
However, he has NO business trying to project it onto you!
. I want very badly to bang him on the head!
Therapy is about
YOU! Helping you identify and trust your
beliefs! Helping you identify the acceptance, hope, etc. that you need to recreate a satisfying state of mind for yourself. Not an easy road for anyone, esp when we're chronically ill and have so little energy to use...
For me, I learned long ago when dealing with long periods of suicidal type depression that asking "WHY" is, to put it bluntly, simply impractical! There isn't anyone, anything, or any spiritual or religious believe that answers WHY to my satisfaction...why do bad things happen to good people, etc....but that's me. "Why", for me, makes everything worse and more difficult. Focusing on "how", what I can do, how I can do it, etc. is where my hope comes from. But everyone has to find what works for themselves.
Like the others, I do so wish/pray/envision a day where you can feel light, joyous, and pain & worry free. But so far, no one has passed me the magic wand. You are the very first on my list if one arrives.
You aren't alone, we are here. An old therapist of mine used to say "Feelings are not facts"...it takes some thinking about
that to get your mind around, but is somehow comforting once you get the right perspective on it -- at least for me.
Hugs, my friend
Lynnwood, Co-Moderator: Lupus Forum
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