I did not have a very good experience with mates and my lupus. And have decided to just live the rest of my life alone. It is better than the constant stress to me, of being sick, but not looking sick. Of being sick with a fever one time, so badly I had fever blisters in such abundance that it turned my lips inside out. Had to drink chicken broth through a straw for such a long time. Once the fever arrived, and the blisters, my husband finally believed I was really sick. but the hassle before then, the constant nagging to clean up the house, just wasn't worth it to me.
It wasn't until years later that an older doctor here diagnosed me with Lupus the first time. i was 27. which I promptly ignored when the pain went away. I forgot about this diagnoses until the other day. young and foolish woman that I was.
But some women i have talked to had a very good response from their husbands.
Lupus diagnosed 1996, Heart by-pass 1998, breast cancer 2000, stroke2002, vascular surgery 2005, heart attack in 2007, and had a stint put in, Sjogren's Syndrome 2008
aspirin daily, multivitamin daily, Arthrotec 50mg twice daily, Meclazine 25 mg, as needed 4x daily, Hydoxychloroquine (plaquinil) 200mg twice a day, Metoclopomide 10 mg, 4x daily, Doxepin 50 mg one cap 4x day, Metoprolol 100 mg daily, Levothyroxine (synthroid) 50 daily, Amlodipine 5mg daily, Crestor 10 mg one tab daily, Lisinopril 40 mg, one tab daily, Omeprazole (prilosec) 40 mg daily, Plavix 75mg daily, promethazine 25mg x4 daily, Restasis one drop in each eye every 12 hours