my ex was that way . . .
weed the garden, feed the chickens, clean the chicken coop, clean the house, do my laundry, his laundry, my kids' laundry, his kid's laundry, do all the cooking, get up at 4:00 a.m. to make his lunch, make dinner every night, make dinner for his friends if they choose to show up at dinner time, plus work at least 40 hours a week because "everybody has to work and do their share".
His share? Go to work for 40 hours a week and kick back with a minimum of a 6 pack every night with his buddies . . .
my solution? i waited for him to leave for work one morning, packed my stuff, my kids and got the heck out. left the ring on the table with a note saying "nothing i do is ever enough for you". he begged me to come back, promising me the world and as soon as i said "no" he threw a tantrum like a 2 year old. that is when i knew that i would never go back to him because things would never change.
my hubby now is so much more supportive - although outsiders looking in say i treat him like a maid. really i don't, but we just have a much more manageable division of duties. he knows that i am tired, he knows i cannot do anything in the way of much physical labor otherwise i am just too worn out to function. if i need anything, i just say "honey, can you help me, please?" he does his own laundry, we alternate nights on dishes and cooking, i dust, he vacuums, i clean bathrooms, he takes care of the yardwork (his idea cuz he hates cleaning bathrooms)
maybe there is some way you can talk to your husbands/boyfriends and just explain to them that you realize it may be alot to ask of them, but you are just so tired and you need some help and when you have to constantly ask over and over again for them to help you, it makes you feel like they don't love you or care about
you . . .
sometimes i think that men are oblivious to what goes on around them . . . they expect us to be strong for them and take care of them, but they don't always realize that we don't have endless energy and we need a little taking care of too . . . we are not their mothers or their maids . . . we are supposed to be their partners and have every right to insist they help us.
take a break, do something for yourself that makes YOU feel good! massage . . . bubble bath . . . chocolate . . . nap . . . whatever it is, spoil yourself a little and let hubby/boyfriends rot if they won't help you!
There are only two ways to live your life.
One is as though nothing is a miracle.
The other is as though everything is a miracle.
Dx: SCLE, Sjogren's, Reynaud's, Peripheral Neuropathy