Posted 9/14/2009 11:53 PM (GMT -6)
Hope you do not mind a vent but I need to get it out.. I had a "supposed" dear friend at my home over the weekend. On Friday, I went out and went grocery shopping etc to make sure everybody had what they needed in the house. We had 4 adults and 3 children around. That night I cooked dinner and on Saturday did my normal chores. Now here is the problem that came in. As I went about my chores (i.e sweeping dishes overall cleaning), this friend never asked if I needed help nor did the person she brought with her (who didnt get out of bed til mid afternoon). "My" friend sat there most of the day complaining how tired she was and how exhausting my children are etc and even got upset when I asked could she throw some clothes in the dryer so I could run out for a minute. She said oh well I am going to take a nap so I can't. She knows I have lupus, and ehlers-danlos (not to mention I use a walker & wheelchair combo to accomplish things) & had just been diagnosed with the myocardia & bronchitis etc. I have never been one to complain as I understand it is a guest. But was it wrong for her to assume and expect me to continuously pick up after her, her friend, and her toddler??? That evening I even cooked a big meal for everyone which all 3 complained about (i.e. the time it took for it to be on the table, and what it was). I feel like she was using me for a free place to stay and maid service. Now today, my doctor is thinking that I may have set myself back with the lupus. I am entirely swollen and I feel like I have been in a 20 rd fight. I want to cry because I also homeschool my children and now they are suffering because of this. I just do not know how to address the situation or even if I should so I can avoid more of a stressful situation. Luckily, my other half stepped in when he got home on Saturday to help out because I was near collapse. I just wonder how long am I going to be paying for this and if it is going to really set back my recovery efforts. Thanks again for letting me vent and any insight you could share. I hate to address conflict and avoid it at any cost as I did this time but I do not know if I can continuously do this.