Buttrfli, I hate to hear this, but am so glad you wrote about it. Venting is a good thing. Avoiding conflict any any cost is not. The eventual cost will be your health.
I'm so sorry that you feel that expressing your wishes and needs causes conflict. All that should be necessary is a friendly request for help. Your friend's (and her friend's) behavior was inexcusable and I hope you never let them stay with you again.
Hopefully you can take it easy for a while, and if you do, this flare should pass. I hope you start to feel better.
SLE, fibro, renauds, restless leg, hiatal hernia, double vision, migraines, costocondritis.
prednisone, plaquenil, leflunomide, neurontin, synthroid, triamterene, actonel, niaspan, tri-est, cymbalta, tricor, acifex