I have not been diagnosed yet however I see my Rheumatologist next week for the 1st time. I am feeling very down lately. I was given strong anti-inflammatories from the doc which take away the sharp pains however the throbbing joint pain is still there and I hate feeling like an old woman as Im only 23. I would be able to cope ok with this if my husband of 1 year would help me with things but he acts like Im over reacting and that Im just complaining about nothing- "everyone gets aches and pains so deal with it" is what he said. I am always the one cleaning the house, cooking, looking after the dogs, doing the shopping etc and I work a full time job. He does not support me through this at all- and its causing me to feeling awful about myself. I feel like a freak. My mother had Lupus and passed away from it when I was 14- and my father was brilliant with her! He was so caring and helpful and loving. Why can't my husband be like this? Am I over reacting? I just feel so down- once Id like a hug and to be told its ok. Is this wrong?