"I am so grateful i dont have things as bad as other people. I can tan and stuff the only effect the sun has on me is my eyes."
This is a quote from one of your other posts. Keeping this in mind, I wanted to suggest that maybe you really think about the surgery, and seek counsel before proceeding. If your lupus is mild, then the last thing you want to do is aggravate it.
Also, you mentioned that your ANA was positive after surgery. Is it possible that the surgery caused the +ANA? Sounds like your rheumy might want to explain things a little more clearly so that you can make the best decision for your own body.
Also, I am sorry that you and your husband are having problems. Having a young child is not easy, combine that with a life altering illness and this will test any marriage! Perhaps you could take your husband with you to talk to the doctors so that he better understands what is going on.
Take care, Fran
Dx: Lupus, sjogren's, celiac, severe allergies.
Daily Meds: Plaquenil, Zyrtec. Aciphex, Nasacort, Prozac, Ambien CR, CellCept, Bactrim
Daily Supplements: Calcium, B-100 Complex, Daily Vitamins.
As Needed Meds: Epinephrine, Benadryl, Proventil, Xopenex, Tylenal, Darvocet, Prednisone.