age of the doctor doesn't matter so much as are they a lupus expert not all rheumy's are actually few are. younger doctors actually tend to have more up to the minute ideas when it comes to meds and such. Plaquenil is one of the safest meds you can take, the thing with the eyes is left over from back when they used to give mega doses and is really rare at the doses they give now and totally reversable. You need a support system and for your hubby to understand. Try getting him to read the spoon theory at butyoudontlooksick.com I hope I got that right others will correct if I have a typo. how long it takes to get a dx depends on your symptoms and how long it takes to find a good doctor.
Dx:fibromyalgia 2002, systematic lupus 2005- definate CNS involvement dxed late 2005, psoriasis 2006, rheumatoid arthritis 2006, PTSD 2007, multiple allergies 2005, migraine, compression fractures T11 & T12, Sjögren's, damaged periphrial nerves 2007, exema
Tx: plaquenil, Enbrel, Tramadol, Singulair, Skelaxin, Baby Asprin, Imuran, Prilosec, lasix, Evoxac, Celebrex, Darvocet when things get too bad, prednisone again, various vitamin/mineral supplements, cozar
"Those who dream by night in the dusty recesses of their minds wake in the day to find that it was vanity: but the dreamers of the day are dangerous men, for they may act their dreams with open eyes, to make it possible." T. E. Lawrence