I'm trying to keep my chin up, but this has been the worst week ever and I'm feeling liking I'm going into a full flare. I haven't been this bad since last year at this time, so I really wonder if it's the weather but I also know the stress levels don't help. To make a long story short, started of this week with my 17 year old having the flu, made my husband take him in so I didn't sit in a waiting room full of other sick people, they gave him Tamiflu and he's better now, but I still had to try and take care of him as well as myself. Next, my 75-year-old dad called Thursday night to say he was going in for a heart catheritization Friday morning (nothing like telling me last minute) and that he would be fine and have my mom would call later in the afternoon. Wrong, he needs a quadruple bypass or maybe 5 arteries. Thing is, he lives in Wisconsin, I live in Mississippi. He's meeting with his surgeon this Wednesday to find out when they will do it. My guess being next Monday because they won't want to do it before the weekend. My husband thinks I should be there, because he's been through it with his dad and knows how it can go. I'm just worried that if I go up there and I'm not feeling well now, I will go into the worst flare ever!! This sucks!! I love my parents dearly and this is the time when I know things can start to get hard for them and I wan't to be there for them. I have one sister and one brother - he lives in Colorado. Sister lives in the area, but she also has issues at times. My brother also suffers from joint inflammation, etc. He's not sure if he can make it. If I didn't feel like this, I would be there in a minute. My mom is okay right now, but she has a tendency to internalize everything, and then she will self-medicate herself with anti-anxiety meds and becomes almost impossible to deal with. What do I do? I know I'm supposed to take care of me, but I'm worried what can happen and if I'm not there for my mom and my dad, how will they handle it. It's the traveling part that you all know is the worst. People who DON'T have health issues get stressed out and overly tired with the traveling. We're in a whole new bracket. Then, this may see minor, but we just had 4 new tires put on my son's truck Tuesday, he came home yesterday, said something was weird, my husband took it for a ride, and the whole tire fell of the vehicle!! I'm just so thankful that he wasn't driving down the highway at 55 or more. He could have been killed!! So we had to deal with that last night and today as well. It just never seems to end!! Please keep me sane and grounded through this process with my dad and me not feeling well. I may not get back on to the forum til Monday, but any advice is appreciated!!
DX - sle and carpal tunnel syndrome
RX - too many meds to list right now