My husband is wonderful about
this disease. I think my almost dying a few times may have helped him realize that things like grey hair and me being unable to do all the things I used to do are unimportant. Odd thing is he never even looks at another woman let alone those sick magazines and movies. Has your hubby been to a doctor appointment with you and had your disease explained by a medical professional? Have you had him read the spoon theory? Have you actually had a meaningful discussion about
his feelings and why he is withdrawing into ****? Have you considered having him dye your hair if it bugs him so much? My husband will help me shave my legs if it bothers him and I am unable to handle it myself (I shake a lot and truthfully bending that far over hurts like heck). Letting him vent his feelings might help, have you considered therapy for both of you together and alone? I have read about
so many marriages falling victim to this darned disease that I want to do what I can to salvage the ones where love hasn't died yet. Also have you considered the fact that your opinion of yourself may be affecting your husband's and how you react to how he is acting? Just a thought. I really hope something I said helps. I also hope that you can find a way to recapture your marriage the way you want it to be.
Dx:fibromyalgia 2002, systematic lupus 2005- definate CNS involvement dxed late 2005, psoriasis 2006, rheumatoid arthritis 2006, PTSD 2007, multiple allergies 2005, migraine, compression fractures T11 & T12, Sjögren's, damaged periphrial nerves 2007, exema
Tx: plaquenil, Enbrel, Tramadol, Singulair, Skelaxin, Baby Asprin, Imuran, Prilosec, lasix, Evoxac, Celebrex, Darvocet when things get too bad, prednisone again, various vitamin/mineral supplements, cozar
"Those who dream by night in the dusty recesses of their minds wake in the day to find that it was vanity: but the dreamers of the day are dangerous men, for they may act their dreams with open eyes, to make it possible." T. E. Lawrence