Hi hun, sorry about
the divorce. As for when to tell them I guess everyone is different. Personelly I would tell them on the first date. It's not like you are going to give him some disease. Besides if neither of you have anything invested in the relattion yet it's better that way. Why would you want to wait until you have time and God only knows what else invested in it before you say something. What if you get tired and have to go home or you can't go to the beach or out 4 wheeling or somthing. Things you can't do. It's better to have it out in the
open. I'm not saying you have to tell him you've had 500 boy friends or was a drunkin drug addict at one time in your life but I go by honesty is the best policy. Shoot most people don't even know what lupus is. After a few boyfriends you'll have it down to a science. There are a lot of people in this world that just don't have a problem with it and if they do then they aren't mature enough to be in a relationship anyway. I don't mean to pull out a hanky and start crying about
having lupus but there is no reason why it shouldn't come out if you spend any amount of time with them.
ok well that's my opinion for what it's worth