If you are having all the health issues you are having and do not go to a Doctor, specifically a Rheumy.....you will continue to suffer and some of your symptoms can be a cause for concern regarding damage if left untreated.
There comes a time in life when we have to, those of us with chronic disease process', have to set aside our prejudice regarding going to doctors or taking pills....this would be one of them.
Why would you not seek treatment and suffer? Medical Science has allowed us to have within our grasp medications that can make life so much more enjoyable when dealing with things like pain, swelling, etc., This does not come with no cost, however and many of these medications have side-effects; they are however bearable and a price to pay to "have a productive as possible life".
I think if you take this advice and you are treated for your symptoms you will begin to look differently, fondly even, at the medical community.
Best of luck to you.......
"I went to the woods because I wished to live deliberately, to front only the essential facts of life, and see if I could not learn what it had to teach, and not when I came to die, discover that I had not lived." Thoreau