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TammyJ
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   Posted 2/14/2011 2:38 PM (GMT -6)   
I just wanted to tell you all that I have ended trying to communicate with my ex girlfriend--someone who I let read the "needy" email said that she probably feels obligated to respond to me and that made me feel lower than whale poop--I don't want her ever to feel guilt or obligation in regards to me. So I am headed to counseling on Friday to get my focus turned back onto me and chalk this up to a really crappy experience that has lead me to meet some wonderful people. Tammy
If you see yourself in others, then whom can you harm? .........Dalai Lama

Hickoryone
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   Posted 2/14/2011 10:14 PM (GMT -6)   
Tammy,

I am hoping for the best for you during this time. I know you have tried the "gauntlet" of various human tactics and it appears as though you are tired; understandably so.

I am here if you need me at any time......I check in daily so I am not that far from assisting you.

I send you the best, always......

TammyJ
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   Posted 2/14/2011 10:33 PM (GMT -6)   
Thank you--I like the word/phrase "gaunlet of various human tactics" how true that statement is--every tactic was seen as manipulation and control and neediness--I don't know how to react to that position other than to finally give up and surrender to TIME or a HIGHER POWER--or whatever force there is out there.

We have mutual friends--we will end up in the same room together eventually--I had the partner of a friend of hers call me today to set me up on a date with someone--I thought that was crazy--I don't say I love you unless I feel it and mean to make a commitment--I think those words are sacred--I am having a really hard time accepting that I am the immature one.

I don't understand how she was able to push me out because obviously I am not able to do the same quite so easily. I am angry--for a while I blamed the disease--but I'm angry that I have to accept that it was her and the choices she made that caused this hurt. Sometimes I forget I have a program of recovery that teaches me how to go through fear and guilt and all that stuff--I don't know what people do who don't have a program--well I guess I just found out what people without a program do--the go home and crawl into bed and txt back out of guilt and obligation. How pathetically sad is that?

Glad V-Day is over--thank you Hickoryone--I will take you up on the offer of assisting me :)

Good night.
Tammy
If you see yourself in others, then whom can you harm? .........Dalai Lama

Hickoryone
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   Posted 2/14/2011 10:49 PM (GMT -6)   
If you want to speak to a real person here is my number: xxx-xxx-xxxx feel free to use it.....tonight, tomorrow, whenever

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Post Edited By Moderator (Lynnwood) : 2/14/2011 10:06:50 PM (GMT-7)


TammyJ
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Date Joined Feb 2011
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   Posted 2/14/2011 10:59 PM (GMT -6)   
Thank you I will call you tomorrow evening--I am out shopping for a new car to lease with friends who set us up--they are trying to help me pick up the pieces--I gave my car up because her lease was up in March--she was moving in and we made the decision to go down to one car--guess who has been without a car--lol!!!!

Thank you--I wrote your number down if you want to remove it from this thread. TTYL--you are very kind.
If you see yourself in others, then whom can you harm? .........Dalai Lama
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