Wow, don't know what to say but that you both made me cry. It sounds like you both have husbands who have been through sooo much but truly love you and just feel helpless at times. All I know is that I need to let my husband know how much he means to me and to show it to him more. We celebrate our 22nd anniversary this Friday and I am thankful for every day of every year that we have had. God bless you both and your husbands.
Hugs and Angels,