It takes an enormous amount of physical and mental energy to accept this diagnosis and keep on going. May I suggest that your friend simply can't spare any energy for building a relatively new friendship right now? When we are injured/ill/depressed, we tend to draw into ourselves and rely only on people we are absolutely sure off. She may simply not know you well enough, and feel safe enough with you, to accept your support or friendship right now.
This is in no way a reflection of you or your willingness to learn and understand - it is about
her and her energy level and her lack of energy to help you learn. Try reading The Spoon Theory
- you might find it helpful.
Lynnwood, Lupus & Sjogren's ModeratorDIAGNOSING-LUPUS & LUPUS-RESOURCES
"Life is far too important to be taken seriously" - Oscar Wilde