I don't have lupus, but I have some of the stuff you listed. Especially the facial redness and flushed, warm feeling. I work nights under flourescent lighting and the next morning, I have the headache, and flu like feeling, almost as if I have been hit by a truck.....and sore beyond words! I currently have RA, so I don't know if it is my meds and I am just over doing it or what! My hair also comes out in the shower, quite a bit of it, and it has done this before I was diagnosed with RA, and I too had the worst sinus infection ever in 2005, so much so I required sinus surgery. I know you mention round red dots, I get these and it is called purpura (sp?) I have them on my hands, and they usually increase after I take my Methotrexate. I don't know if this is what yours are, but they look like small little spots on the skin, very tiny. I am sure someone with Lupus and much more expertise will come along to help you.