Hi sorry that you're having to deal with such issues. 2 years is a long time, but some of us have gone a lot longer I'm sorry say. It took my Doctor's 13 years before they would formally say and start to treat my lupus. I truly believe that's partly why I'm so sick now.
If you go to www.lupus.org they will have a list of Doctor's in the states that you could call. I'm not sure what type of insurance you have and if you need a referral or not. You could get the names from the lupus foundation and take them with you if you need a referral. Show the list to your GP or PCM and I'm sure they will help you get into see one.
I would also recommend that you see an oncologist about the tumor in your femur. If the Orthopedic Doctor's won't biopsy it, then I think you need an oncologist backing you. Just my opinion, I have leukemia and a mass in both of my lungs. My Doctor's aren't sure whether the mass in my lungs are cancerous or not, but they requested I have a PET/CT scan done. Possibly a biopsy or total removal of the masses if need be.
This is a really old thread and the folks that started no longer respond to it. If you'd like you could start a new post and introduce yourself and give us a bit more information about your symptoms, tests that have been done, you know all that stuff.
Again, welcome but sorry that your sick with possibly lupus. Lots of great folks here with loads of experience. Good luck and please come back and let us know what happens.
DX- RA, Lupus, Fibro, LGL Leukemia, Pulmonary Hypertension, Bells Palsy, Gastroparsis, Blood Clots, Glaucoma, Chronic Pericarditis & Pleurisy, Severe Anemia. Way to many medications to list.