Welcome to our forum Robinan. I sincerely hope you do not get diagnosed with lupus, but keep in mind that stress can cause lupus to flare so try your best to stay calm. Like Joy said, if you take care of yourself you can live a long life. Also keep in mind that every case of lupus is different. Some lupies will have a flare (pain, fatigue, etc) that lasts one week, once a year while others are frequently sick. Please refer to our references at the top of the forum.
This is important: if you are breast feeding do not take any meds (even supplements) without consulting your doc.
Take it easy. Venting is okay. You're among friends and there is always someone here to help or just listen. Love, Butterflake