Hi everyone I'm back. I've been hanging my head over a pail and the other end in the toilet. The Flu is running rampant in my house. After the virus I had a migraine. Today is the first day I coudl get my head off the pillow. Thanks for the warm welcome. I'm so stressed because it seems once my grown children leave home they return. Now in my house is 4 adults, 2 teens and a 17 month old. One of the adult being my husband. Althought I've had lupus for half of my life because I don't LOOK sick most of the time my family and others don't think I'm sick, I'm not a whiner and I have no choice but to keep doing things like cleaning the house, cooking, babysitting and dealing with two teenage girls. They all say Moma sit down, don't do this or don't do that because I need to rest. But if I don't do it it does not get done. I can't rest because I can't stand to see all the mess. Along with all that stress, I have the stress of my diseases, Lupus, Migraines, Ulcers, Sinuses, brochitus, Incontinence, memory loss (from medicines) had Hepatis C (from medicines) COPD, Acid reflux so bad at times I can actually feel my food going down my throat this is painful. Overall I know I'm blessed because things could be worse. I felt like if I joined this forum I could talk to people who understand some of the things I'm going thru. I'm not looking for a pity party its just nice to comminicate with someone who really knows what you're through. I'm only ont the computer about twice a week because my hands are stiff and swollen a lot of the times and I have using only two fingers. Thanks again for receiving me so warmly.