It sounds like she had a very bad flare. She will get better once her symptoms are stablized. She needs to start taking care of herself more than ever now.
There are several medications to help control symptoms: plaquenil for fatigue and to slow down the progression
Steriods for bad flares
And others I can't remember very well :/
The rashes will come and go. They usually show up when we're feel poorly. They don't scar unless she has discoid lupus. She needs to start protecting herself from UV rays.
So no tanning beds, fluorescent lights, CF bulbs, halogen lights, and cover up completely in the sunlight.
Memory problems will dance around in our heads. It's something messing with the processing skills in our brains according to my psychologist. It's worse during flares.
There's ways to work around it and she will adjust.
I remember when I was first told I went through a "why me?" stage, it still pops up at times. It helps to get her a councelor to talk to who deals in chronic illnesses.
There is no cure for lupus, but if she takes care of herself properly she can live a long life with few flares.
Make sure to go to lupus.org to find out some of the things she may have to deal with and she's welcomed to visit here herself as well as you. Caretakers are always welcomed here.
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When life throws you lemons....
Pick them up and throw them right back at them! :))