Posted 4/3/2014 9:01 PM (GMT -7)
Whew! It's been a long 6 days I have to say. I really enjoyed seeing my friend and spending time with her, but......... it was very tiring for me. I felt as if I needed to be up all the time to spend with her. Then my daughter who isn't the most social kind of kid, has spent everyday locked up in her room since Saturday night when she (MY DAUGHTER) arrived.
I managed to get her to go out for ice cream once with my friend and I. We went to Ikea yesterday and of course, daughter wanted to go there for the meatballs and gravy for lunch. I took my friend to the airport today and it was hard to say good-bye to her. I was very thankful that her hubby was willing to watch over her pets so that she could visit.
I know that she was rather upset with my family because she could see how cold they can be to me. She brought 16 movies with her for us to watch. She and her hubby watch or go to the movies always. My hubby NEVER watches movies. Well, she was certain that she could talk him into watching movies with us, he told her politely that he didn't like to watch movies and wouldn't be joining in. She pushed a bit on him and when she started the movie, he went downstairs to his shop and worked on fixing a broken TV. She was flabbergasted that he walked away. I heard many times over the days "I can't believe he won't watch a movie with you". She also mentioned that they correct everything I have to say and I know they do, but I just don't know what to say about the situation.
Don't get me wrong, I love my friend DEARLY and it was WONDERFUL to see her, but I had to get upset and raised my voice and slammed my hands on my kitchen counter. She was on me about why did I put up with the abuse I took as a kid. It was like she couldn't understand why I am the way I am. I heard often that I'm TO accommodating to hubby and daughter. That I shouldn't put up with their crap and tell them NO flat out. I ended up crying and trying to explain that what IF he kicked me out, was she going to take me in and care for me full time and support me. Not that I would ask her to, but she didn't have an answer for that. I just really wanted her to understand that I pick and chose my battles with my family. I have very little energy as it is. Sometimes, it's just easier to agree than disagree. She's a very healthy middle aged lady in fantastic shape, she's super healthy and it was hard for her to comprehend it all I think. I'm afraid that I offended her because I wouldn't agree to some of her suggestions. Which I NEVER want to hurt her feelings.
She baked me wonderful banana bread, lasagne and pierogies from scratch for us and left loads of food frozen for the next few meals. Yum oh she's a great cook and baker. I know her hubby missed her terribly cause the way she cooks she does that daily at home. I also know that her animals must have been missing her terribly bad, as she was going crazy missing them. My cat Grady wouldn't allow her to snuggle with him. She managed one time to pick him up and give me a good squeeze, but that was it.
My appointments went okay I guess. I know that my orthopedic appointment was a hard one to do. The surgeon said my MRI showed that I have several tears in the Achilles tendon along where it attaches to my heel bone. He also stated I have a ton on fluid and edema on the back of that tendon and all along my heel and the bottom of my heel. My splint isn't in yet, so he gave me a shot of steroids very deep into the back of my heel/tendon area. Talk about hurt like heck, OUCH. Still I have zero pain relief and I'm still waiting for the splint. I'm to wear the splint for 4 weeks before seeing him again. If I have no improvement by then we will discuss surgery in depth at that point.
I went to Pulmonary Rehab yesterday and received a shock. One of the ladies who goes with me there passed away last Thursday. She caught a cold and just died. She had severe COPD but that was it, she wasn't immunosuppressed at all. My friend asked if I could go that quickly and I had to tell the truth and say yes, she replied, "well you've had several close calls and you always pull thru". I wanted to tell her that my luck will run out sooner or later but didn't.
My daughter will be home only tomorrow with me. My friend left at 3pm today and I'll be with my daughter tomorrow and she'll be leaving to go back to school. I wish she was more friendly I could have seen her more. Oh well, maybe she'll be home for a bit this summer, at least I hope so.
I had a very nice visit with my friend, but I'm wiped out and tired. So I may not be around until this weekend sometime. I want to spend tomorrow with my daughter, I know I have Rehab at 9:30 and PT at 12:00pm so after those, I'm going to shut off my cell phone, no answering the house phone, and just spend a few hours with my girl.
Well, I'm off to bed as I need sleep, I've been going to bed at 11:30 to midnight every night. My friend is 1 hour behind east coast time and she gets up at 4:15 am to walk her dogs, so I've been up every morning by 6am. Haven't had a lot of sleep, hopefully I'll sleep soundly tonight and awaken not in a flare up. Thanks for checking on me and I'll talk with you all soon.
DX- RA, Lupus, Fibro, LGL Leukemia, Obstructive & Central Sleep Apnea, Pulmonary Hypertension, Bells Palsy, Gastroparsis, Blood Clots, Glaucoma, Chronic Pericarditis & Pleurisy, Severe Anemia. Way to many medications to list.