"Get your Grump On" with me!

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Lynnwood
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   Posted 4/4/2014 8:04 PM (GMT -6)   
As in, I am grumpy. None of my local friends call me for any activities. I might be hungry and angry as well. And tired. No plans for the weekend and my one friend/family member is out of town.

H - hungry
A - angry
L - lonely
T - tired

So... in lieu of typing nasty words, ones I generally never say...

goodnight, blush eyes confused

Post Edited (Lynnwood) : 4/5/2014 9:07:48 AM (GMT-6)


acquiesce
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   Posted 4/4/2014 10:35 PM (GMT -6)   
Grump away Lynnwood! You are certainly entitled.

That's pretty crummy. I get to feeling that way sometimes too. That's when I devote some time to myself and dye my hair, paint my toenails and immerse myself in marathon chick flicks. And junk food. If I could afford it I would treat myself to a spa day. When's the last time you had some fresh flowers in your house? They are always a good "pick me up". I'm a florist, I know of what I speak. ;)

What is something you can do to pamper yourself this weekend?

I went for acupuncture today and it was pretty darn amazing! I feel relaxed and as close to normal as I have been in almost a year!! Highly recommended :)

I hope your weekend gets better. Want to come to acupuncture with me next time?

Lynnwood
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   Posted 4/4/2014 11:00 PM (GMT -6)   
Lupus means hair dye causes scalp reactions -- not pretty. Not a girly-girl, toenail or fingernail dye would feel really weird and so not me! Same with chick-flicks. Sick of the books & movies I like, they are no substitute for real people. I'm sure junk food would help, but then I'll never ever get off this 40 lbs the prednisone left for me. Flowers...February 14th and made them last almost a month...everything is blooming here right now and with pollen counts already up to 3,000+ I don't think I'll be purchasing any pollen carriers (flowers) right now. Not into acupuncture, although a massage would be nice. I used to have someone who would come to the house, but now the only one I know is 30 minutes away and $75! By the time I get home the benefits are almost gone.

So, I continue to be a grump tonight. It was supposed to rain today so the weather pressure has been all over the place - changes in barometric pressure gives me nasty headaches. I'm hoping for better spirits in the morning, but not really counting on it.

Sometimes I'd just like a hug. Guess the grocery boy would be surprised if I asked him for one, huh?! Or a long cuddle.

couchtater
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   Posted 4/5/2014 1:24 AM (GMT -6)   
((((((((((((((((Long gentle hug)))))))))))))))))

I know what you mean. I never hear from any of my old friends. I want to o to the movies but my movie buddy (niece) is swamped in end of semester college work.
I've been foggy all day too.
Joy
Lupus, Fibromyalgia, Glaucoma, Asthma, Hypothyriodism, Sleep Apnea, OA, Depression, Allergies, and benign familia tremors

When life throws you lemons....
Pick them up and throw them right back at them! :))

acquiesce
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   Posted 4/5/2014 5:46 AM (GMT -6)   
Aww Lynnwood, here's a long distance virtual hug for you! (((((hugs)))) It's not the same, I know, but you're in my thoughts.

I totally pictured you hugging the grocery boy and his reaction! Can you imagine?! lol

Well you sure shot down my suggestions in quick order ya grump! I'm teasing. ;) I've had days like this and I understand. I putter around the house grumbling and hrrumphing and everyone scatters out of my direct path. If I was closer I would take you out for lunch or something. :) I'm lucky in that I always have a hug close at hand. I wish that you had the same. And you too Couchtater :)

I always break out when I dye my hair but quite frankly I'm vain and I don't like these grey hairs that keep showing themselves! I'm still 29 in my mind and stubborn. :D

I also very much fear needles so my experience last night with acupuncture was pretty comical. But I thought what the heck, something's gotta give. You should have seen when she started towards my forehead with one! I said "Oh no, you really don't think you're gonna stick that in my face now, do you?!"
UCTD , livedo reticularis, Raynauds, cold urticaria, endometriosis, bursitis, arthritis, Sjorgens, anemia, leukocytosis, vasculitis, pleurisy, asthma and all that fun stuff!

Plaquenil, celebrex, advair, flovent, dovobet, vitamin A,B,C,D,E fghijklmnop ;)

Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind - Dr. Seuss

jan1952
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   Posted 4/5/2014 8:31 AM (GMT -6)   
Lynwood, I really like your thought of hugging the grocery boy...I would do something just like that. Hugs are a rarity in my life, but they sure do feel good.

After these posts, I believe I've realized why I can relate so much to my hedgehog (one of quite a few of my critter family members). She huffs and puffs, sticks up her quills, and is big-time grumpy if I wake her. Eventually, she settles down, but it's in her own sweet time. I can relate.

Sure do hope your headache is better this morning.

Sending telepathic hugs to all three of you.

Take care--
Jan
"If there are no dogs in Heaven, then when I die I want to go where they went."
Will Rogers

PattyLatty
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   Posted 4/5/2014 9:52 AM (GMT -6)   
Bah humbug. Sorry Lynwood. 😔

Butterflake
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   Posted 4/5/2014 10:03 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi Grump. I guess the card I sent you that said, "I can always count on you to tell me the truth" was inappropriate. I currently can't help with a play date either cause Benlysta has zapped my energy and what little I have I save for my family. Guess for you I'm 0 for 2. sad I hope the grocery clerk is tall, slender yet muscular, has sexy long, thick hair, and sees you for the adorable woman who you are. As always, Love, Butterflake
SLE '05, Sjogrens, fibro, Raynaud's, major depressive disorder, CNS problems, diastolic heart dysfunction, GERD, 1st stage kidney disease. Many meds: better living through chemistry

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Lynnwood
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   Posted 4/5/2014 10:06 AM (GMT -6)   
Yup, I am a grumpy humbug. At least you guys are the only ones that know it, and y'all can stop reading at any time.

This is stupid, but...

My fingernails grow really fast, and have to be cut about every 5 days. If they don't get cut it makes me feel dirty, yucky and ruins my day, but I don't always have 15-20 minutes to get them cut & the sharp edges filed off. Feeling pretty yucky now.

Continuing my grump. Join me if you want to "Get your Grump On"! lol

Lynnwood
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   Posted 4/5/2014 10:30 AM (GMT -6)   
Butterflake/Donna,

Your card was fine and you are definitely not one of the friends I am referring to. People with chronic diseases get a free pass!!

I'm referring to the healthy active people (and groups of people) who are out doing things and don't invite me along anymore. I promise I'm not a complaining grump when I'm out and about!

Butterflake
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   Posted 4/5/2014 11:15 AM (GMT -6)   
Really???? A free pass? And just for being sick. What a deal!! I know you're not a grump when you're out and about. Even when you feel like s#%# you are a delight to behold. Okay, that's a bit much, but you are good company.

BTW, you know all too well that my Christian beliefs don't stop me from using nasty words like delight and good company. Love, Butterflake
SLE '05, Sjogrens, fibro, Raynaud's, major depressive disorder, CNS problems, diastolic heart dysfunction, GERD, 1st stage kidney disease. Many meds: better living through chemistry

Donna
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Lynnwood
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   Posted 4/5/2014 11:21 AM (GMT -6)   
A delight to behold? Honey, I need some of whatever drug makes you say that!!!

oreo11
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   Posted 4/5/2014 3:04 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Lynnwood,

When I am feeling alone and abandoned (yes, I wonder sometimes where my friends are) I end up hugging my students at school. They have gotten used to me being an affectionate goof and actually have been pretty insightful when I feel down in the doldrums. They get to me first with a pat on the head (I am shorter than they are :) or a hug. It's probably what keeps me working in alternative education. We all feel, even the teachers, like misfits sometimes and I love the fact that we focus on building relationships with these kids. When people ask me how I feel and I say "fine", we have a definition for what that really means. I will leave the "f" alone and leave it your imagination, but the rest is insecure, needy and emotional. It usually fits. I am sending you a warm and gentle (((((((((hug)))))))))).

Laura

acquiesce
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   Posted 4/5/2014 6:51 PM (GMT -6)   
I think you should hug the grocery boy AND ask him to give you a manicure. And tape his expression and post it on YouTube. :D
UCTD , livedo reticularis, Raynauds, cold urticaria, endometriosis, bursitis, arthritis, Sjorgens, anemia, leukocytosis, vasculitis, pleurisy, asthma and all that fun stuff!

Plaquenil, celebrex, advair, flovent, dovobet, vitamin A,B,C,D,E fghijklmnop ;)

Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind - Dr. Seuss

lucysgd
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   Posted 4/5/2014 10:26 PM (GMT -6)   
Lynn, I spend a lot of time by myself, too. A result of a long stretch of not being able to socialize with any regularity or dependability. People do finally give up, it seems. Now that I am better enough that it would be great to have a few buddies to get out and about with occasionally, I'm no longer being asked, and I get very grumpy about being inside my own head for too long. However, I've not stepped up and done any asking myself, feeling too awkward. And that's on me. Guess I need to muster up some social courage.

Short of that - my advice is to visit an art museum, plan a project, or take a class. And at least wink at the grocery guy smilewinkgrin

Lucy

Butterflake
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   Posted 4/6/2014 9:43 AM (GMT -6)   
I belong to a lupus study that, among other things, sends out annual questionnaires. There was an interesting statistic I read several months ago that I still remember: 61% of those with lupus prefer to be alone (myself included). We are our own worst enemies. Love to All, Butterflake
SLE '05, Sjogrens, fibro, Raynaud's, major depressive disorder, CNS problems, diastolic heart dysfunction, GERD, 1st stage kidney disease. Many meds: better living through chemistry

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acquiesce
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   Posted 4/6/2014 10:07 AM (GMT -6)   
I wonder if it's because being with other people can be exhausting both mentally and physically.

That's likely why I love talking to people on the internet so much. I can set my boundaries as I need to and I can be in my pajamas with a messy house and no one sees it! It's social interaction without the extra work!
UCTD , livedo reticularis, Raynauds, cold urticaria, endometriosis, bursitis, arthritis, Sjorgens, anemia, leukocytosis, vasculitis, pleurisy, asthma and all that fun stuff!

Plaquenil, celebrex, advair, flovent, dovobet, vitamin A,B,C,D,E fghijklmnop ;)

Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind - Dr. Seuss

Lynnwood
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   Posted 4/6/2014 10:49 AM (GMT -6)   
There comes a time when solitary pursuits fail. I think my time has come!

My work was somewhat solitary 1995-2002, my Lupus has been very solitary 2002-present.

Trying to muster the gumption to re-create a friend network when I want to be friends with people who are active in pursuits I'm no longer very good at is challenging!!!
Lynnwood, Lupus & Sjogren's Moderator, Dx: 2002
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"Life is far too important to be taken seriously." - Oscar Wilde

MomIsAMess
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   Posted 4/6/2014 2:04 PM (GMT -6)   
Lynnwood! ^5 we can grump together on this sunny Sunday morning. I'm all alone with a 15y.o dog who would much rather sleep than keep me company. I'm famished but my bad leg is stiff and I don't want to take a chance on putting any weight on it and plummeting to the ground. My husband and son usually leave me alone all day unless the absolutely MUST deal with me. Unfortunately they are both at church and I'm contemplating gnawing at my fingernails. The dog is looking pretty good to me right now too. I've got a headache and I got to go pee. Remember the whole leg thing up above? yeah...there were a few four letter superlatives floating around up there for me. It stinks being alone and not being able to find the roku remote. Over a hundred channels on satellite and nothing is giving me the warm fuzzies right now. Yes, I feel your grump.
Maryann

Chronic Pain, Diabetic, Asthma, Disabled, Lupus;
peripheral neuropathy, Raynauds, fibromialgia, fevers, severe allergies, memory loss and depression

lucysgd
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   Posted 4/6/2014 10:05 PM (GMT -6)   
Interesting study results, Donna. Not surprising, really, though. I tend to think that for many women it's almost a necessity to be alone in order to truly rest and not be "doing" or stressing because you're "not doing" when you are feeling ill. Even then, it can be hard.

Acquiesce - so right. When reserves of energy are low - dealing with social situations, people, etc. is very taxing. I'm an introvert at heart. I love people but they can wear me out. It's also hard to keep up with those who don't struggle with fatigue and haven't the faintest clue what happens when you've dipped too far into the energy reserves and are running on empty.

Lynn - you strike me as someone who likes a good challenge. Celebrate that you are ready to move beyond your solitary pursuits and launch yourself out there. :-)

God Bless Us, Grumps and all.

yeah

Lynnwood
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   Posted 4/6/2014 10:34 PM (GMT -6)   
Grocery bag boys were all duds today. But I had a short conversation about a white dog with his owner, a man in his early 30's with gorgeous blue eyes and a beautiful smile!
Lynnwood, Lupus & Sjogren's Moderator, Dx: 2002
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couchtater
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   Posted 4/7/2014 12:16 AM (GMT -6)   
I try to get out at least once a week just to be around people besides family. Even when I'm scooting around walmart I still get a chance to talk or smile to strangers. It's good to break the boredom once in awhile.
Joy
Lupus, Fibromyalgia, Glaucoma, Asthma, Hypothyriodism, Sleep Apnea, OA, Depression, Allergies, and benign familia tremors

When life throws you lemons....
Pick them up and throw them right back at them! :))

oreo11
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   Posted 4/7/2014 7:39 PM (GMT -6)   
Hmmmm.....early 30'2 and a gorgeous smile. That would have really lifted up my day today.

Laura

Barbara Lee
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   Posted 4/8/2014 10:44 PM (GMT -6)   
Lynnwood:

Sorry to hear that you're dealing with the feeling of being abandoned. Or, at least, that's how I feel most of the time about my friends and family. I like you rarely have visitors, I know, I just had one but I hadn't seen her in my home since 2005. I did visit her in 2008 at her home in Florida.

My local friend has only been to my home 3 times in almost 2 1/2 years. That says a lot doesn't it, I do try to meet up with her at Starbucks once a month, but that doesn't always happen.

I think it's great that you're feeling well enough to feel grumpy about not having your former friends visit. When you were sick it really didn't matter, now it does. After our talk today I really think that getting away for a bit would be a very good thing for you. My offer is sincere, I even spoke with the Old Man, and he said you were more than welcome to stay with us. Whether you wanted to hang here with me, or homestead and travel to other places and just spend a night here and there. As long as you don't nag him, he's fine with it LOL.

I also had another thought, how about volunteering somewhere place, like a cat rescue or shelter. Or something that interests you. I know when I was healthier I worked part time, took care of my daughter, and was the volunteer coordinator at her elementary school, and the cookie Mom for her troop. Doing all of that at one time kept me very busy and I had many friends and loads of activities to do.

It's just a thought maybe I have triggered something for you to think about. I truly think you need a break from your everyday life of what it was, and need to start a new one even tho it's a scary thought. Who knows, maybe you'll come my way and bug me for a bit, my door is always open. tongue Hope the Grump is gone soon.

Hugs,
Barbara
DX- RA, Lupus, Fibro, LGL Leukemia, Obstructive & Central Sleep Apnea, Pulmonary Hypertension, Bells Palsy, Gastroparsis, Blood Clots, Glaucoma, Chronic Pericarditis & Pleurisy, Severe Anemia. Way to many medications to list.

acquiesce
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   Posted 4/9/2014 7:29 AM (GMT -6)   
I've gotten involved with a ride for lupus near my area. It's May 31st and I'm really looking forward to it and have met some new friends. They have dinners every couple of months and events, meet and greets etc. It's especially nice because if I'm having a rough go and have to cancel, everyone understands!!

It's awesome because 100% of the proceeds go directly to a children's lupus clinic in our area and research. It was developed by a fellow lupie sister who is an avid motorcycle enthusiast. It's in it's second year and support is growing leaps and bounds.
UCTD , livedo reticularis, Raynauds, cold urticaria, endometriosis, bursitis, arthritis, Sjorgens, anemia, leukocytosis, vasculitis, pleurisy, asthma and all that fun stuff!

Plaquenil, celebrex, advair, flovent, dovobet, vitamin A,B,C,D,E fghijklmnop ;)

Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind - Dr. Seuss
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