Sorry to read about your lack of support.. I am in somewhat similar position myself: though I am long time single, I DO have grown children.
I've recently begun to have an internal debate - would I be better to live elsewhere, far away & be ignored
rather than being close by & be ignored? Not yet sure
I am blessed to have a friend who expects an email from me daily &, if she does not get it & also cannot get me on the phone, will contact authorities.. how wonderful, yet pitiful is that?
When she recently suggested I was depressed I replied I am sad - but, like the infamous 'which came first? Chicken or the egg?' Does our sadness cause depression or vice versa ? How could we NOT be sad?
Am Reminded of one of those short stories in Reader'sDigest- remember those 'feel good ' pieces at the end of a regular article? This one was about an elderly lady, being moved to a different nursing home: one of the nurses / aides was describing how beautiful the new room & facility was, to prepare her. The elderly woman's comment was designed to remind the reader that happiness is a state of mind, not a physical place.
Re: family - When days go by without a phone call, much less a visit from them
(which is not even out of their way every single day)
or, help w/a meal when in a particularly rough episode- now & then, etc. I think of the above story & know just to expect NOTHING, now or in the future.
That MY ability to be happy depends SOLELY on me.
My bitterness, like hate, will only effect me - obviously noone cares how I feel, much less what I need !!
That said, I do not, for one minute believe I would act the same way if our roles were reversed.
And when I once again read about how others are directly mistreated, like Barbara Lee, my heart breaks just a bit more.
Interestly I've discovered that this behavior is considered marital abuse.. even grounds for divorce in some states.
think about it.. ignoring the needs of an obviously disabled person, child or adult, in need is illegal as well as morally inexcusable.
It will continue as long as the victim allows it -& the victim can pay a high price for reporting it.
we cannot change others, only the situation, if we so choose.
As stated earlier in this thread, we did not ask to be sick. Yet we are punished for being sick..
like is often the case with abuse, if 'outsiders' knew they would be appalled.
& we are too ashamed to tell. Who would believe? Or understand ?
Thank goodness for this forum & the caring people on it !
Wish I knew the answer.
Gentle hugs & caring thoughts to you'll
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