No offense taken, just wasn't sure how to help you.
Lupus isn't necessarily a "horrible, non-curable, will lead to a miserable life" diagnosis. There are a number of treatments, and many people reach a stable point. In fact, some of us even reach a type of remission (for Lupus, they say the disease is "quiet").
I am one example of a "quiet" disease. I used to have miserable joint & muscle pains, burning joints, and a significant cognitive disorder. Mental testing showed a 15 point drop in IQ points, I couldn't remember what I was talking about
by the end of the sentence, couldn't watch a 20-minute sitcom, didn't drive at all for 2-3 years, nasty stuff...all that and more from Lupus.
But by following my Drs directions, learning to listen to my body and take care of stress, etc, I am now back to almost normal. It can get better!
Lynnwood, Lupus & Sjogren's Moderator, Dx: 2002DIAGNOSING LUPUS & HW's LUPUS 101
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