People, especially young people, often don't know anything about
Lupus, or about
MTX. Until you've had a chance to educate them, don't be surprised. And, unfortunately, some will still be quite self-centered. And sometimes, esp when we feel like your friend described, we are human and we just don't think about
what we are doing/saying!!! Time will tell who your true friends are.
I'm concerned, however, about
what sounds like an immediate jump from no treatment straight to MTX. I think of the various meds used for Lupus in tiers -
1) Plaquenil (which you will remain on), Prednisone (to address inflammation)
2) Imuran, Cellcept, MTX - we don't know which of these will work for an individual, so it's trial & error - perhaps your Dr will let you try Imuran or Cellcept first before MTX. Imuran did nothing for me, but Cellcept saved me big time!
3) Benlysta, IVIG, plus I think there is something new in trials
Let us know how it goes!
Lynnwood, Lupus & Sjogren's Moderator, Dx: 2002DIAGNOSING LUPUS & HW's LUPUS 101
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