Message from the family of Barbara Lee

Hi everyone, this is Nikita,

I am deeply saddened to tell you that my mother passed away this morning. At around 7am she went in to cardiac arrest because her lungs no longer converted oxygen in to her blood, and her blood stopped clotting. At this point her doctors increased her medications to make sure that she was deeply sedated. Doctors performed CPR and were able to get a heart beat but they kept losing it. They continued CPR until close to 10am when we asked for them to stop.

My dad and I appreciate all of the prayer, positive thoughts, and well wishes. This community has provided her with a lot of support over the years and we all appreciate the support you have given her.

At this time we are making arrangements and more details will be given when they are made, so please wait before sending anything. Thank you.

Post Edited (Barbara Lee) : 3/6/2016 2:12:02 PM (GMT-7)

Thank you for posting, Nikita. I know it's been difficult to deal with your own loss as well as keep us updated.

We will all miss your mother more than we could possibly tell you.

Here is what I told my "friends in real life", there is nothing else I can really say.

Barbara Lee Mutter, who just turned 51 last Sunday, passed away this morning from complications of Lupus. She leaves behind a daughter, Nikita, in her early 20's, and her husband, Bill, as well as many many friends from the Lupus community that she has supported over the years. I've talked with Barbara several times a week for over 10 years, and as I've gotten better she's always gotten worse but never, ever let me feel guilty or sorry for her. When my life was darkest, when my cognitive dysfunction made me feel like I was losing my mind and everything with it, Barbara carried the light and didn't let me quit. Barbara fought so bravely, rarely complaining but just keeping on, handling the next thing that came her way. I will miss her more than I can say. Rest peacefully, my dear friend, till we meet again.

Condolences to her family & friends. Wonderful, giving person.

Prayers

Your family has my deepest of sympathies, your mother was a very good HealingWell friend and will be missed so very much. I'm so sad that she is gone, she was a wonderful person. Rest peacefully my dear friend, you were truly a source of hope and pushed to keep fighting. May you now be at comfort and surrounded by angels.
Sending many, many prayers to you and your family.

My heartfelt sympathy to Barbara Lee's family.

Nikita I am so sorry to hear about the passing of your Mom. Certainly she's in heaven watching over you and your Dad and doing all the fun things she was unable to do before. I'm thankful for all the encouragement she gave me and when I need strength and courage I will continue to think of her. My prayers are with you and your Father during this tough time. Love, Donna

I'm so sorry for you and your Dad's loss Nikita and may you find comfort in the knowledge her suffering and pain is now over... if there's anything at all the Healingwell community can do for you please don't hesitate to ask.

NIKITA

I AM SO SORRY TO HEAR OF YOUR MOTHER'S PASSING. ALL I CAN SAY IS FOR YOU TO CONTINUE TO DO WONDERFUL AND POSITIVE THINGS IN YOUR LIFE AND KNOW THAT YOUR MOTHER IS WITH YOU AND SMILING ALL THE WAY. I LOST MY MOTHER OVER 30 YEARS AGO AND SHE IS SOMEONE I NEVER FORGET. YOUR MOM IS YOUR MOM FOR YOUR ENTIRE LIFE AND AS SAD AS YOU FEEL NOW, SHE WILL ALWAYS BE WITH YOU.

BARB WAS A GOOD FRIEND AND WE SPOKE OVER THE YEARS ON THE PHONE. SHE WAS LIKE A NURSE (AS I AM) AND SO I RESPECTED HER KNOWLEDGE AND HER LOVING SPIRIT.

WHAT FIRST ATTRACTED TO ME TO HER ON HW, WAS THAT SHE ALWAYS TOOK THE TIME TO GREET NEW PEOPLE COMING INTO THE ROOMS. NO ONE WAS CONSISTENTLY DOING THAT AS BARBARA DID. THAT RIGHT THERE SHOWED ME HER RESPECT FOR ALL PEOPLE AND I KNEW I WANTED TO BE FRIENDS WITH HER RIGHT THEN AND THERE.

OVER TEN YEARS WE DISCUSSED OUR FAMILIES TOGETHER AND I CAN TELL YOU HOW PROUD SHE WAS OF YOU AND ALSO, BILL. YOU HAVE ACCOMPLISHED SO MUCH NIKITA AND YOU HAVE A LOT TO BE PROUD OF. SHE LOVES (PRESENT TENSE, LOVE NEVER DIES,) YOU SO VERY MUCH. NEVER DOUBT THAT.

MAY GOD BLESS YOU AND KEEP YOU IN HIS LOVING CARE.

GOD BLESS YOU TOO, BARBARA. RUN THROUGH THE FIELDS IN HEAVEN!!!

WITH LOVE,

LINDA

Post Edited (Lindaloo) : 3/10/2016 11:41:11 AM (GMT-7)

Once more you and your family has my sympathies and that was a very lovely tribute to Barbara, Thank you for posting that and I will make a donation to a local charity in her name tomorrow.
Nikita please if you need support reach out on here. Your mom was so very proud of you....

Nikita, your mother and I would chat and when she spoke of you it was always with pride and love, please know that above all else, she loved you!
My continued prayers are with you and your family...

Sending my sincere sympathy for the loss of your Mother... prayers for you both...

I am deeply saddened by the news. My deepest condolences to you and your family.