Today I prepare for my trip to say a final goodbye to our dear friend Barbara Lee at her Memorial Service in Laurel, MD. Barbara passed away March 6th after many years of fighting serious complications of Lupus, a blood cancer, and various other ailments.
I first met Barbara thru this forum around 2005 - in those days there were 2-5 of us who were relatively housebound and we used the chat feature to meet up around 2 pm most days of the week. We even had a motherless teenager from England join in, Barbara became her de facto mother for a while!
In 11 years, I had the privilege of meeting Barbara in person three times - but met up with her in postings, in chat, via phone calls and texts multiple times weekly. She was of great support to me and many others on this forum, as I hope we were to her.
As Barbara became more ill, with wounds that would not heal, breathing difficulties, and constant pain - I moved into a "remission" period. But Barbara never let me feel guilty for being healthier, she never failed to rejoice in my health as if it were her own. And yet, she very rarely felt sorry for herself, but soldiered on.
So today I pack, and reflect on the various times I've moved toward the phone to call Barb in the last month - sometimes we don't realize quite how much we value those around us until it is too late.
Hug your loved ones, say thanks to your friends and supporters, and if you're far enough South, enjoy the Spring flowers, my friends.
Lynnwood, Lupus & Sjogren's Moderator, Dx: 2002DIAGNOSING LUPUS & HW's LUPUS 101
"Life is far too important to be taken seriously." - Oscar Wilde