Check out the suggestions in Lupus 101 - make a concise list of symptoms from your journal, make a list of questions, don't use any makeup that might conceal facial rashes. Take copies of the relevant tests the family doctor did - copies the rheumy can keep.
Don't "tell" the rheumy the diagnosis, tell them the SYMPTOMS. Let them sort thru the possible diagnoses. While the family doctor means well, anything she said about
Lupus is out of her field of study. You don't want the rheumy thinking "Lupus" - instead you want them to match your symptoms against the full range of auto-immune diseases that they are experts in!
Let us know how it goes!
Lynnwood, Lupus & Sjogren's Moderator, Dx: 2000DIAGNOSING LUPUS & HW's LUPUS 101
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