Hi Disneyfan. Unfortunately I think that I scared you off, but if you are still lurking out there and decide to read the posts from Dustmite and me there is a great book that everyone with Lupus should own. It's "The Lupus Book" by Daniel J. Wallace, MD. I own two editions the latest is edition 5. Many of us on the forum have a copy. It seems like I constantly refer to mine. Anyone else who is reading this should buy a copy too.
If you are embarrassed about your home life, please don't be.Before my diagnosis I was working full time, running like mad to keep up the house, and taking classes to finish my BS degree. I became friends with a woman who didn't work. She and I were talking, but I had to get home to make dinner and get it on the table before prince arrived. After I finished dinner and cleaned the kitchen, I had to study for the exam the next day.
Out of nowhere she said that her husband was cooking dinner so she would have more time to study. I had an epiphany which I knew all along. My prince was a demanding jerk who only thought of himself and used every drop of me. One year later I divorced him and a huge burden was lifted from my shoulders. Being without prince did wonders for my soul, my self esteem, and for my little girl.
Now I am with a caring, thoughtful, loving man. He only knew me two years before I was diagnosed with Lupus yet he's still with me. You've already been handed the Lupus card. Don't you deserve something better Sweetie? Love, Butterflake
SLE '05, Sjogren's, Fibro, Raynaud's, major depressive disorder, anxiety; CVID (Common Variable Immunodeficiency); IVIG infusion monthly; Hypertension; Osteoarthritis of the spine, right knee, fingers, toes; Osteoporosis, CNS problems, GERD, angina, 1st stage kidney disease. Many meds: Better living through chemistry